Wednesday, April 13, 2011

I’m Too Sexy for My…

“Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”
Romans 14:13

My camera is still not working, please excuse the lack of posts lately! Here is part two of my study on the topic of modesty. Let’s talk about the most “controversial” aspect of modesty: as the opposite of sexy.

Why do women want to be sexy? There is a healthy, God-designed desire for women to be beautiful and attractive. God also designed us to be sexual beings (just read all of Song of Songs in the Bible). Feeling sexy and attractive are not sins. So what’s the problem, why are we called to dress modestly?

The clue is in the above scripture. We simply have a responsibility to people around us, to show them respect. We have a responsibility to God, to show balance and self-control in every area of our lives, while being aware of how our actions affect others.

To try to dress in an enticing way is to try to allure others to think about you sexually, or lust after you, which in God’s view is a sin. Even someone who isn’t intending to make others think sexually about them, yet wants to dress sexy “for themselves,” is not being loving to those around them by presenting a temptation. “It’s not my problem!” sounds a lot like Cain’s excuse, “Am I my brother’s keeper?”

So while I do my best to look attractive, and love pretty clothes and bright colors, I reserve looking sexy for being only around my husband. It doesn't prevent me from dressing "cute" as I like to do, or following fashion trends, or even taking fashion risks!

People who are living for God have the heart of wanting to please him, and allow him to dictate every aspect of their lives. There are no “off-limit” areas to God in my life. I do not live to myself alone. As I look at how I dress through eyes of love for those around me, I find dressing modestly a joy.


  1. Interesting! I'm not religious, but even I appreciate modesty in a secular context. It makes for better outfits in the workplace. ;)

  2. Thanks for reading, Lisa! I agree with you, an office is a place for professionalism, not immodesty.

  3. I just think a woman who has good taste and good manners will never wear anything that's too revealing. The most sensual (sexy) thing about a well dressed woman is, in my opinion, an ability to tease imagination without showing off too much. That's art without any trashy element added. :)

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  4. all woman are sexy, they have their own curvy sexy body. for me, i don't want to be sexy by showing my body too much because my body only for my husband. so i always wearing polite and proper clothing and offcourse comfortable on my body.

  5. I love this post! I strive to dress modestly because that's what God asks of me, and I love finding others who believe the same. I'm not ashamed at all for covering my body and keeping it pure until marriage. For a God who saved my life, it's the least I can do!

    Thank you so much for posting about this. :)


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